Co-workers

I'm not sure if anyone is reading these blogs, but it makes me feel better to post them so here goes one for today. How does one deal with a co-worker that feel and are treated better than everyone else in the office?

I've found that being passive-aggressive works best for me. It's just irritating that the owners of the company let her do whatever she wants because she has been here for so long. I'm not saying she doesn't get her work done, she is a hard worker. I just don't think its right to treat one employee one way and a second employee another. The rules should apply to everyone.

This co-worker also feels that when the boss is out, she is the new boss. I don't ever remember that being said. So she gives me all her work she doesn't want to handle to make sure I'm busy and while I get it done, I do it in my own time frame. What doesn't get done today, will get done tomorrow.

Math Programs in school

I just have a pet peeve that I would like to vent about. As the mother of two teenagers, I must say that I think the math classes that middle and high school kids take is totally irrelevant. I thought so when I was a student and I still feel the same way. We have so many adults who can't even budget there own money because all they learned in school was algebra and geometry. What good are these types of math in real, everyday life?

I truly believe that kids should be taught business math, investment math and maybe even accounting math which could be useful if someone goes into business of their own. I think algebra and geometry should be saved for college and only for studenst going into specialized fields where this type of math will be used. Other wise I feel the same for college math classes.

As an older, returning student, I had to get my 19 year old son to help me with algebra just to pass so I could get my psychology degree. Now what algebra has to do with psychology I'll never understand. I also, being 45 years old have never used algebra even thought my high school algebra teacher, when asked, told me I would find uses for it when I had to go grocery shopping. Not true. I have never used algebra to buy groceries.

So now I might acually get involved in the school system and find out if there is any way to get math cirriculum changed in the way schools view math.

Home schooling?????

It has been a few days since I have written. I'm having a dilemma. My youngest son is 16 and a sophmore in high school. He plays travel hockey and was having a hard time between getting school work done and not missing the required numbers of days off per semester. We decided to try the "home schooling" route. He is attending a program called Faith Academy. He does attend a math class and other than that he picks up his packet of materials and work for the week. He also has to attend for mid-terms and finals. All the work is done at home. So far so good. The only issue is math. They also provide a math tutorial on-line but he is just not getting it and I'm no math wiz.

I'm trying to decide if we have made the best decision. It is early in the semester so we will see. I find as a mom without a guide book it is sometimes difficult to know, in these important times of preperation for college, it what we are doing is the right decision. I guess we will just have to see how it goes.

Don't get defensive, be thankful.

My whole life, every time I am critized I get defensive. Today, however, I had a pivotal thought. People aren't criticising me or doing things for me to be mean or make me feel stupid, they are doing it to simply help me.

My husband has been telling me this for years and I just never got it. I always thought that every time he tried to tell me to do something this way, I was automatically stupid because I apparently was doing it the wrong way. I thought that everytime my coworker went into to edit a file for me she was doing it because she thought I was unable of figuring it out for myself. I now realize how wrong I have been. I now realize that she has been simply helping me out.

I think with this new realization, I can go through my day being grateful for help instead of defensive for being shown the errors of my ways.

No readers out there as of yet. So my question is what does it take to make up a successful blog? I just thought it would be interesting to get different opinions on topics I thought would be interesting. Any interesting topics you would like to discuss?

One topic on my mind today is the subject of a life long marriage. I have been married for 23 years. Although I love my husband, there are times when I would like to see what it would be like to be by myself. To not have to compromise on every detail of everything. Of not needing to get an okay from someone else when making certain decisions. I've never had this experience as I moved from living at home to being married. I've never been able to make total decisions on my own, learn from my own mistakes or simply do what I want when I want to do it.

I'm not saying I have no freedom. My husband, even though he says I can do anything I want, will always give his opinion whether wanted or not. I do make my own final decisions and suffer the consequences if need be. I am a strong person with strong opinions, it just gets tiring to always have to explain or stand up for what I feel is the right thing for me or my kids.

During my spiritual journey, I stumbled on the religion of Wicca. I found it most interesting and while not working at this point, I had the time to practice for a little bit. It's a very interesting religion, focusing on earthly matters and how to connect the earthly properties to the spititual realm of the universal energy. By using the earthly properties of crystals, herbs and oils, these properties increase the intentions of the person casting the "spell".

I believe that we all send out signals to the universe and the type of signals we send out is what we receive in life. If you put out negative signals it will draw negative results and vice-versa. I do think that it can only help to use earthly materials such as the crystals and oils to help make those signals release in a stronger manner.

However, it is a very time consuming practice. In order to cast a spell, it takes days and even weeks worth of preperations and the spell casting itself can take up to an hour. Plus you have to have certain moon stages in order to strengthen the spell. It also requires different tools in order to be stronger, such as candles, a wand, a sacred cup and so on. It can get a bit expensive as well as time consuming. So as much as I found this practice very interesting, I just don't have the time it takes to put into it. So I stick with my spiritual readings, meditations and affirmations to keep me on track.

Was Jesus really married?

I grew up going to Church and you were just told to believe in everything they taught and what your family believed. After some really hard times I began to question my faith. I did my own reading and soul searching and found that Christianity just wasn't for me. I have now turned towards Eastern philosophies as my belief system and spiritual foundation.

With that being said, I really found it interesting when the DaVinci Code came out. I know its a work of fiction but so much of it those basic theories have been researched and I have not stopped reading about it yet. I really do believe that Jesus was married to Mary Magdelene, that this is the "grail" that the Knights Templars were made to keep secret. I find the whole church cover up really intriguing. The church just did all it could to cover up this fact so that they could keep their vision of "the holy son" intact. They have done nothing but string along believers into believing so much that simply isn't true.

I find it interesting as a psychology major that so many people just trust blind faith without really questioning what it is they belief in. Maybe that is why there are so many lost people, wondering around with no true help or beliefs that can truly help them when they need it the most.

Getting started

For some strange reason I have always felt the need to write. I feel I can really express myself, my thoughts and emotions best in writing. I am a 45 year old mother of two teenage boys. I work part-time and go to school full time as a psychology major. I have studied also, all different religions and religious philiosophies and just wanted somewhere to share my ideas. I don't know if anyone will respond or read these blogs but I thought I would give it a try.

I'm not even really sure how people will find or read my blog but who knows. My first thoughts are on being stuck working at a job that you really don't find fulfilling only to earn a living. I work for an export company. We export steel and industrial spare parts to Brazil. My official title is Purchaser/Office manager. I am really a jack of all trades and do a little bit of everything. I have worked here for two and a half years. It is a small family owned business and we too are like a little family, which at times can be unnerving.

I have been working in different office positions for over 20 years and have always found it easy but quite boring. This is why I have gone back to school to one day, after my kids leave the nest, be able to do something that actually interests me. But until then and up until now it has been all about family financial support. Making money to get the kids what they need. I have not totally minded this position but how does one keep going after years and years of this tedious existense? That is my question to you. How does one remain focused, positive and fulfilled in an unfulfilling and tedious job?